Sunday, October 24, 2010

- judging ourselves -

We are our own biggest supporters.

We believe that our strengths are unique and that our failures are either 1) not our own fault or 2) extremely common. Your classmate's high grades aren't that impressive - you could easily match those if you wanted to. Who cares if you don't get much done at work? Not like anyone else is putting up extra effort - and even if they did, they probably don't have as much going on as you do.

We fall victim to self-serving bias all the time. An interesting experiment my psych prof once recommended: take out a notepad and jot down every time you make an excuse for a failure. You'll be amazed at how long the list will get.

And that's exactly why self-serving bias not a problem: our self-esteem would be battered without that spiffy little mechanism. High self-esteem makes us think we can be great things. High self-esteem makes us think we can achieve big things. And if we believe we can do it, our chances of succeeding actually increase.

The key to balancing is to be our own biggest critic.

After all, criticism is easier to swallow when it comes from yourself.

2 comments:

Renae said...

lol i find this is totally not true for me...i do the opposite on all accounts. And even if I know that I am making excuses, it hardly ever helps to get me to work. I constantly feel like I can do better in class, work harder, and even if I get high marks I put myself down too. And it doesn't help...I just stare at the wall going...omfggg I have to do this but I-just-can't.

Echo said...

try reading "getting things done" ! it has a ton of tips on how to get things done, and i found some of them pretty helpful =)